| Location | Ebbw Vale |
| Age | 25 years |
| Cause of Death | Suicide |
| Date of Birth | 08/06/1983 |
| Date of Death | 9/2008 |
| Visitors | 1,991 since 26/09/2008 |
| Creator |
[Thanks to all those people who have left comments and lit candles for Ben - it is a very thoughtful and caring thing to do and is very appreciated - apologies if I don't respond to everyone who does, but I do want you to know that it is VERY appreciated]
Alternative dedication:
http://www.new.facebook.com/pages/Dedication-To-Legend-Benjamin-Charles-Pugh/42221111222
I only met Ben a few times down the pub. I really thought a lot about him. He was funny and lively and a really humourous guy.
The first time we met, I was playing pool with a friend, and he was on another neighbouring table. I had just taken a shot and he accidentally chipped the white ball on his table and it landed on my table and potted the ball I wanted to pot!!! The most amazing shot I've ever seen in any sport!
Another time we had a good laugh and he bought everyone in the pub a shot. Such a generous and funny guy.
I found out early this morning that he had recently committed suicide. Even though I didn't know him that well it has really affected me. I couldn't sleep properly, and I regret not being able to talk him out of it.
I myself have suffered from depression and so I know he must have been suffering an awful lot.
This is a very sad day for me. I visited another friend today (who didn't know him). This friend has called me up a couple of weeks ago feeling suicidal, and I myself was suicidal a few months back. I didn't tell my friend as I didn't want him to feel disturbed or scared.
I felt that I needed to give Ben a tribute... I don't know his surname OR his date of birth. All I know is that he will be missed by a lot of people.
[Thanks to Tina for supplying Ben's surname - very appreciated]
My science teacher at school also committed suicide, and yet these people are always so kind and thoughtful types. So very very sad.
I have been watching Doctor Who recently, and even though I'm a grown man, it hurts that the Tardis is only make-believe. As if it wasn't I'd be tempted to go back and save tortured souls.
I don't believe in the afterlife, but Ben I wish you could read this message and not go through with it. You hanged yourself, and I can't get the hollywood version of hanging out of my head, where the legs jiggle.
Your last moments must have been so very lonely and distraught. I am sorry you had to suffer this, and if I'd known I'd have driven all night to get to you... but you didn't even know I cared that much!!! Anyone reading this who is feeling suicidal... there ARE people who care, even if it's not an immediate friend. Please get help.
Love you Ben. Suicide is not for cowards, it's for the people who feel a bottomless pit of despair, and due to the confusion of depression it can go unnoticed sometimes by those nearby.
My heart goes out to everyone affected by Ben's death, whether they were best friends, friends, acquaintances, drinking buddies or neighbours.
Take care Ben...
Mike.
you'll never be forgotten x
god good friends and neighbours for years , you were an amazing guy , you will always be remembered and you will never be forgot xx
sarah x
Ben, I can't believe I am only finding this out now. I guess news travels slow to Australia. I don't know quite what to say - I'm shocked, I'm devastated. It doesn't seem real. I was thinking, I'll see how you are and what you are up to - sadly, it's a year too late.
I still remember arriving in Thame, England. I'd only been there for a couple of days when I met you. The attraction was instant and I'm happy to say, mutual. It still surprises me how quickly and naturally we fell in love. Our time together was light, fun and happy. Everything was so carefree. I'll always remember the late night chips n' cheese (by far your best dish!) and running through Oxford in thunderstorms! The time I spent in the UK would never have been all that it was if it wasn't for you.
I wish I had followed through with our plan, I wish I would have brought you back here with me, or gone with you back to Wales, maybe then you would be safe and happy. But maybe it was fate or something that intervened, either way, the guilt I feel is intense. I'm sorry for turning my back on you, I'm sorry if I hurt you. I wish I had at least taken the time to reply to your emails.
Since I can't change my actions in the past, can I just say, for the record, that I love you too and that I too always will. If you are "bogan-esque" and "proper bad" for saying so, then so am I. You rocked my pathetic little world as well.
I'll never forget you.
xxxxx
i really dont know what to say i just want ben to know that me and kayl still think about him and we miss those random nights where we'd bump in to each other (mostly down the tav) playing pool isnt the same without him. i hope your safe now and i hope theres an awesome pool table there for you.
RIP
Az
GONE TOO SOON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
LIKE A COMET,,,,,,BLAZING CROSS THE EVENING SKY,
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GONE TOO SOON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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LIKE A RAINBOW,FADING IN THE COMING NIGHT,
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GONE TOO SOON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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SHINING,SPARKLING,AND SPLENDIDLY BRIGHT.
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HERE ONE DAY.,,.GONE ONE NIGHT.
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GONE TOO SOON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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LIKE A CLOTH OF SUNLIGHT ON A CLOUDY AFTERNOON.
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GONE TOO SOON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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LIKE A CASTLE BUILT UPON A SANDY BEACH.
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GONE TOO SOON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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LIKE A PERFECT LOVELY FLOWER, THAT IS
JUST BEYOND YOU"RE REACH.
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GONE TOO SOON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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BORN TO LIVE IN SHEER DELIGHT,
HERE ONE DAY,GONE BY NIGHT.
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GONE TOO SOON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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LIKE A SUNSET DAZZLED BY THE RISING MOON.
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GONE TOO SOON.
[A MICHAEL JACKSONG SONG].R.I.P..
R.I.P.ANGEL.XXXX
Happy Birthday In Heaven - by Winnie Lovett
"Happy Birthday Ben"
It's sure to be the best one yet,
Though you left me here behind.
Did you think that I'd forget?
Your cake this year, will surely be,
A beauty to behold.
With the icing made of Silver,
And the candles made of Gold.
Yes, your birthday in Heaven,
Will be such a grand affair.
And I know you'll look so lovely,
With a halo in your hair.
The Angels will come from everywhere,
To sing your birthday song.
And I know they'll be so happy,
That you've joined, God's Happy Throng.
No I can't send a card this year,
Or give a gift so fine.
So I'll just send a special prayer,
To that wonderful Friend of mine.
Who's To Blame? - by Christine Ross
Who's to blame for suicide?
The question often heard.
Someone always points a finger
And they say such hurtful words.
They never do consider that
It's caused from a disease.
Depression and Bipolar
Are just a few of these.
Some die from being murdered.
Some die from accidents.
Some die from pneumonia,
But none of it makes sense.
Sometimes body parts wear out
Way before their time.
Some lose the cancer battle,
But it all seems so unkind.
No matter how they leave us
It never is their choice.
There's something deep within them
That has a bigger voice.
So please refuse to take the blame
For the THING that took your Friend.
Although others point their fingers.
They haven't walked your mile.
hope your ok
hello ben.
im so sorry that this word doesnt have the pleasure of you in it anymore. im so sorry i couldnt make it to your funeral. i lost my baby son around same time you passed away, and my sons funeral was a day before yours so as you can imagine, it was a difficult time for me but i hope you know i was thinking about you a lot that day and hope your safe where you are. i hope your watching over your family, i just wish i was there for yasmine as we were best mates years ago. its such a waste of life but maybe you were too good for this world. hope your safe where you are. and i do think about you as i know many many people do. speak soon xxxx
Godbless
Goodnight Godbless sweet angel in the sky, sleep peacefully on the clouds of heaven and watch over your loved ones.
xxx
⋱♥⋰ IF ONLY YOUR FAMILY COULD TURN BACK TIME ♥ LIFE ONCE AGAIN WOULD BE FINE ♥ TIME WOULD PASS YOU'D STILL BE HERE ♥ TO HAVE TO HOLD TO LOVE SO DEAR ⋱♥⋰
Edit
big tissues an free hugs
Ben was the best guy in the world.
We did the same course in college an we all knew that if there was something wrong whether it was needing a fag or needing a cry we could go to ben.
He always had a smile an made you laugh no matter what.
You'll be missed by everyone Ben, you touched so many people in many different ways.
Me an mat are gonna see if we can sort out a gig in your memory, you deserve a good send off
Caz xx
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